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The writer Anita Brookner, who has died at persons under the age of 87, requested that no funeral be held after her demise. How common is this and what does it mean for friends and family?
When someone dies, the UK government’s
is given in three simple steps. advice First, get a death certificate from a GP or hospital doctor. Second, register the death. Third, arrange the funeral.
But the writer
Anita Brookner, best known for her 1984 Booker Prize-winning novel Hotel du Lac, requested that step three didn’t happen in her lawsuit, her demise notice in the Times saying: “At Anita’s request there will be no funeral.” Image copyright Alamy
In January, the
musician David Bowie didn’t have a funeral either – his body was cremated in New York without any of his friends or household present.
This type of aiming, where a coffin runs straight-out from the place of death to the cremator, where it is burned, is known as a “direct cremation”.
Catherine Powell, customer experience director at Pure Cremation, which offers services for England and Wales, is forecast that 2,000 people a year are now making this choice.
The most common reason, she adds, is to enable a more “celebratory” event, such as a summertime beach party or function at a golf club, to take place weeks or months ago. However, some prefer it for financial reasons – a direct cremation, including transport and coffin, costs only over 1,000, whereas an average funeral expenses 3,600, according to research by Bath University’s Institute for Policy Research.
A direct cremation involves a company moving the body from a hospital, hospice or home to the crematorium. As with a conventional funeral, the coffin travels along the aisle of the chapel to the cremator, but no ceremony takes place.
Image copyright AFP Image caption David Bowie also chose not to have a funeral
However, families and friends can come to watch the coffin’s procession. They can touch it and request music to be played. One girl who attended alone “sang her heart out”, says Powell, while the procession of one man’s body is complemented by his two daughters performing “air guitar”. But there is no eulogy or other ceremonial aspect.
Some Christians have used the direct cremation service, in one case with friends of the deceased reciting scripture as the coffin passed through the crematorium. A religion memorial service took place months later.
UK funerals, in which mourners traditionally have worn black, have become less conventional. In some cases there is now a party topic, with attendees garmenting up as , among other things, buffoons, Vikings and Dr Who characters. Some might regard this as flippant behaviour, but supporters say they involve thoughtful, personalised rite – a tribute and a send-off.
The body is the part of the funeral process that people find most difficult to deal with. This takes away that fret for people
The US-based website What’s Your Grief offers “guilt-free alternatives” to funerals. These include erecting a “shrine” – a collect of photographs and mementoes – in the home, holding birthday or anniversary memorials, planting a tree and setting up a memorial book. Of course, all of they are capable of, and often do, happen if the deceased has a funeral too.
“What we offer isn’t a cheap funeral – it’s a simple cremation, ” says Powell. “That’s not right for everybody, but it allows the later recollection to be more personalised and schemed. Often there’s no time for some relatives and friends to get to funerals, so it devotes them a chance to attend a memorial when one takes place at a better hour. It offers more flexibility.
“The body is the part of the funeral process that people find most difficult to deal with. This takes away that fret for people.”
A central question is whether considering the body( in an open coffin) or at the least having it in the same room as the mourners is important. In recent years it’s become more common to refer to a corpse as “just a shell”, wrote
William Hoy, clinical professor of medical humanities at Baylor University in Waco, Texas, but he questioned how widely this is actually believed.
He quoth the concept of “liminality”, described by the early-2 0th Century anthropologist
Arnold van Gennep – that the immediate period following physical death is a “threshold” in which people aren’t sure whether to describe them as dead or alive.
“The bereaved need subsistence in two months, to be sure, ” Hoy wrote, “but they most certainly require the purposes of personally meaningful ceremonies in the early days after death.”
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There are no centrally held figures on funeral – or non-funeral – types in the UK, but the National Association of Funeral Director is forecast that direct cremations and the rarer burials without ceremonies follow less than 3% of the 480,000 or so annual deaths.
“This is largely because, despite high-profile instances such Anita Brookner and David Bowie, as a society we generally view the purposes of the act of a perpetrating a body to the ground or to the flames as a central part of the funeral service, ” a spokesperson says.
She acknowledges that the individuals who opt out of funerals usually do so for personal rather than financial reasons. “While a funeral can be extremely distressing, ” she says, “it can also be an important part of the mourning process for those working left with and so an option to allow people to come together in another way might be an important consideration in the planning process. “
Brookner, who nursed her own mother until her death in 1969, said she had read the Bible as small children but had decided there would be “a lot of questions and no answers”. She described herself as a “pagan” and supported the use of euthanasia.
The author, who taught at London’s Courtauld Institute of
and was the first woman to hold the Slade Professorship of Fine Art at Cambridge University before becoming an writer, never married or had children. Art
It’s not been revealed whether she planned for her friends and family, and many thousands of fans, to hold a festivity of their own lives at a later date.
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