couple Ben Higgins and Lauren Bushnell officially announced their breakuptwo weeks ago, but if you thought that was the last we would hear from current realities superstars, you majorly underestimated.
Higgins, 29, launched a podcast with fellow alumAshley Iaconetti( better known as Ashley I .), titled, on which theyve been candidly discussing things like his breakup with Lauren.
In the first episode, Higgins addressed the divide by saying,
Just to be as politically correct as is practicable and to also be as truthful as possible, Lauren will always be one of my best friends. Its[ a relationship] where I learned a lot about myself; I guess she learned a lot about herself. Patently, she knows me better than anybody else that has gone through this experience, and genuinely likely anybody else in the world. Its tough.
While everything sounds amicable, a breakup is a breakup, and a relationship that began on Tv is patently subjected to the very watchful eye of the internet.
And as anyone even somewhat in the public spotlight could probably tell you, Higgins is clearly find firsthand just how opinionated the internet can be.
In an emotional Instagram post on Tuesday, Higgins again addressed the breakup, but this time he also had some pointed terms for his naysayers.
You are going to hurt someone, “youre willing to” hurt someone profoundly. But, I will not be one of those people. I cannot focus on the negative commentaries or indecently hateful words being said about me or my relationship even though they do sting. I do know great people that I care about deep that comments and criticisms have affected and as a result I wanted to share my words.
Addressing his personal faiths, he continued,
A small minority of people( at least I will continue to believe it is a small minority) want to see people suffer or fail. Personally, my basis for judging myself is simple, if I do something that doesnt represent Christ then I will listen to the opinions and terms from family and friends who know me best and love me. I do desire( by the direction of family and peers) to become a better person daily. I know some will not agree with my intents but in all things my pursuit is to represent Christ better.
Higgins and Bushnellwere always open about their Christian faithand in light of that, faced a good deal of criticismlast year for their decision to live together before they were married.
In the post, Higgins reminded people he is not perfect as none of us are and[ he] never claimed to be.
Healso set the record straight-out on his career, writing,
To are aware of , not that this should be a astonish, but this podcast is a professional decision I have made to enhance my life and career. I still have a full time task. I am still operating Generous Coffee company. I still have a blog. I am still actively involved in @humanityandhope. And now, because I was given the opportunity, I have added a podcast with a friend and a great company( @iheartradio) to talk about life( and I love to talk ).
While he called Ashley I. a friend, there was some supposition the two might be dating when they are attended a concert together.
However, Iaconetti told Us Weeklythe two are totally simply friends! She explained, We ran with our podcast director at iHeart and other friends.
Higgins concluded his message,
The last few months have not gone the style I would have preferred. My relationships have changed drastically and what I foresaw my life was going to be has been redirected. It is sad, but it is nothing you should feel sorry for me about, life happens both the good and bad. With this, what do you think I should do now?
For all of you that have given me advice let me give you some from my heart. Love as hard as you can( even to strangers ). Ask yourself what life is about and seek your conclusion with passion. When a good opportunity arrives your way that fits your desires take it, because life is short but a lot more fun when you are doing something you enjoy.
Honestly, good for Ben for standing up to internet loathe and dealing with the criticism head on. Lauren, who moved back to California to seek a career in fashion, lately shareda similar sentiment on Twitter.
It looks like Ben and Lauren, while not happily ever after together, are working hard at observing happinesspost-engagement.